Life Is Very Simply, Black & White

Over the last couple of years, I have become very hard. That is the best word I can think to describe it. Not that I don't care, it's just that life is very simply, black and white.

When someone comes to me with a problem, the answer is always very simple. Nine times out of ten, that person knows the answer as well. They are simply looking for reassurance. And they always question how I have come to that decision so quickly, as they typically have been debating on their choices for some time, and my answer is always the same. It's black and white.

Let me describe this. For example, there are two types of people - in my opinion - in this world. There are good people who do shitty things, and shitty people who do good things. My husband Kevin, for example. Does he get too drunk from time to time? Yes. Does he have fits of anger when something just isn't quite working? Yes. But he is a good person. He does good things, and has a good heart. That makes him, a good person who does shitty things.

My good friends ex boyfriend. He was very pompous. Very conceited. He had a knack of making you feel like the smallest, most stupid person on the planet. But he would do nice things from time to time. Pay you a compliment, lend you a favor. He was a shitty person, who did good things.

Think of every person you know with an honest view of them. I bet you can determine which they are very quickly if you are truthful about it.

The kind of person you are, or someone is, is very simple to determine. Imagine the person you dislike, or hate most. A person that you absolutely despise. A person that pushes all those buttons of yours. Perhaps they did you wrong, or crossed someone you knew, or have done terrible things in their life. Nasty, no good, low life piece of work person.

Now imagine its cold, and raining, and dark, and they need the shirt off your back. Literally, the shirt off your back. You typically want to punch a whole in the wall at the mere thought of this person, and now they need YOUR shirt. You will be left, with nothing. Do you give them your shirt?

My friends ex boyfriend, would not have. He would have laughed, and said 'serves you right'.

Kevin, of course with slight hesitation but none the less, would give them his shirt.

Two kinds of people.

Life is black and white. You have two choices. Right or wrong. Good or bad. Happy or sad. Left or right. The grey area is simply our emotions interfering with the clear choice. Remove that and you are left with a pretty easy decision. And this is how I choose to live my life. Do not get me wrong, I am not immune to those emotions, nor do I want to be. Lets face it, we need them. Do you want to live in a world of no color? I certainly don't.

All I believe is, it is what it is. Let worry and fear go. Stick to your convictions. Stand strong in your black and white decisions, regardless anyone's opinions. Allow yourself some color, but don't let it drown you. It's your life, and if you are not making yourself happy, then I don't know what you're doing.